Hello and welcome to MySelf Builder. Today we're talking about what it means to be a better person by reacting and responding positively.
Do you ever feel as if there are a number of situations that are happening at once, with each one working against you?
You overslept, forgot something important at home, and it ruined your day
Being stuck in traffic causes you to be late for school or work
Or maybe you're dealing with depression, something taking longer than you expected, financial problems, car issues, being treated unfairly at work
It's during challenging times when we have to remember the importance of being better, that means taking the high road and not reacting in a way that damages your reputation.
Being better means that you don't let the mood and actions of others cause you to get into trouble. You continue to smile, make responsible decisions, and remain calm even when there's trouble around you. We all experience different emotions and face difficult situations from time to time. We can't control what happens to us or when something happens, but we can control how we respond.
While it’s good to vent and not let everything stay bottled up, where and how you do this is just as important. Going online and posting rude comments or reaction videos by yelling, swearing and arguing is not the best place.
Don't let one bad interaction lead to a lifetime of consequences.
One time, I was standing in the checkout line at a store and the cashier was apparently having a bad day. Earlier,I heard him talking over the phone about an issue with a merchandise delivery. He didn't speak or say anything to any of the customers and was rude with the way he took people's payment and bagged their items.
Once I left the store, I noticed that the cashier had accidentally given me an extra $5 bill. I thought, "What should I do - keep it or go back?"
If your response would have been to keep the money and say, "Oh well, that's his fault. He shouldn't have been so mean," then you need to sign up for one of our workshops at myselfbuilderdigital.com. 😆
After a few minutes, I went back into the store and told the cashier what happened. When I did, his entire mood changed. He started smiling, thanked me and even said, "Good looking out brother." It was as if he turned into a completely different person. I wonder how many other attitudes can be changed for the better by showing integrity and kindness, even when others are not?
It's also important not to let people take advantage of you or treat you poorly. There are ways to stand up for yourself respectfully and avoid trouble without damaging your reputation or falling down to someone else's level. Be Better. Looking for payback, revenge or ways to try to hurt someone back is not healthy.
The key to being better involves feeling good about yourself first. If you don’t feel good about yourself, then someone else’s negativity, rudeness, or attitude towards you will impact you.
Remember what you have and what you are working towards
Take a break and do something you enjoy
Say, "I'm not going to let this situation, person, or challenge change who I am or am supposed to be. I want and deserve to be happy."
Stay in a good routine by finding ways to laugh, exercise, read, talk, and surround yourself with positive people and role models.
Recognize that you may not be able to solve all your problems in a day and that it’s not necessary to respond to every negative comment or situation.
Seek positive opportunities and activities that make you feel good about yourself so that negative moments don't throw you off course. The more you do this, then the easier it’ll be to persevere through difficult situations.